Self-confidence is an interesting concept, and one that I have gotten many questions about since I started my work in the fashion field. I get questions daily on how I stay confident and let me tell you it’s something that definitely takes work. There have been countless times in my life where I haven’t felt absolutely confident in myself. For example, I used to be very shy when I was in my adolescence/teen years around people. I was afraid of saying the wrong thing at the wrong time to the wrong people. Overtime, I started doing the tips I’m going to share with you that really helped me break through that cycle. Sometimes the fear of not being good enough can be very challenging to overcome but one thing that will definitely help is working on your confidence.
You see, we all have ways/triggers of feeling good, bad, low at times when it comes to confidence and it’s about knowing how you respond to those triggers and change the strategies you use that help in gaining self confidence.
You Should Dress how you Feel Best – Not What you Think Confident is
If something makes you feel great make a conscious effort to wear it! You’ll feel successful and presentable and ready to tackle the world.
Perfect your Posture
How you carry yourself communicates a lot to other people, so make sure you’re telling them that you’re confident. I used to have horrible posture and and when I remind myself to stand tall and straight, I feel better about myself.
Smile and Make Eye Contact
Try and keep a relaxed welcoming smile when talking to people – you’d be surprised how even the smallest of smiles can make everyone feel more comfortable. For example, I feel instantly better when I smile, and it helps me to be kinder to others as well. A little tiny thing that can have a chain reaction. Eye contact shows not only that you are a person worthy of communicating with, but it tells them you respect them, acknowledge their presence, and are interested in the conversation.
Recognize your Talents and Good Qualities and Write Them Down
No matter how down you feel, try to pat yourself on the back a little and remember the things you excel at. Focusing on your better attributes will distract you from perceived flaws and boost your sense of worth
Think of the Obstacles that Stand in the Way of your Confidence
When you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. For me, this met working on getting out of my comfort zone and meeting new people.
Remember that Everyone Struggles with Confidence and Kill Negative Thoughts
This mindset helps you see that nearly every person has struggled with his or her self-confidence at one point. You’re not alone! There will be days when you feel like you’re starting from square one; take a deep breath, remember the self-confidence hurdles you’ve already cleared, and resolve to keep going. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you’re doing. If you already think negative before the outcome you are more likely to give up.
Talk to Strangers
So in order to be confident, you’ve gotta do confident things. One of those is making conversation with strangers. It’s intimidating at first, but with each time you’ll be more and more unfazed.
Build your Confidence by Helping Others
Take time to pay someone else a compliment, or do an unannounced good deed. You’ll brighten their day, and you’ll feel better about yourself. When you become a source for positivity, others will seek to be around you, bolstering the good vibes. Know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image.
Let go of People That Bring You Down
It’s important that you surround yourself with others who you feel make you feel like you’re the best version of you there could possibly be. It’s only around these people that you’ll be able to make the growth you want to.
When you become aware of what you are linking your worth to, start releasing yourself of that limiting belief that you can only feel worthy or confident in the face of certain actions. When you do that, you will find yourself filled with a sense of self-worth that is always permeating regardless of what happens. Remember, you can do this by taking control of your life, and taking control of your self-confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you can increase that self-confidence.